Surrendering our souls can leave us frozen. We know all the reasons to be afraid - everything that's hurt us in the past, everything that could easily do so again. So sometimes we're stuck - unable to let go; too afraid to crawl forward; the chains of our past firmly anchoring us back. Such as: I just can't do it / I'm not submissive enough / strong enough / brave enough to handle being hurt like that again. In My time as pro domme, I've seen too many subs not giving themselv

Scaling. It's a term I overheard the other day from a fitness instructor to her trainee whilst I was doing My Madam lunges. In the world of fitness, the term allows room for anyone to participate. If the specific exercise is for a push-up, for example, then maybe you can do ten in a row, but another can only do four. One must scale back the push-ups according to their fitness level at the time. We're not all at the same level, but we can all move in the same direction. In oth

One would love to hear that if you stay in faith of your submission, if you believe, that your Madam will always answer your cravings for dominance within twenty-four hours (or at least within the first week). But we know that's not the reality. Madam promises that she will be true to Her word, but She never puts a timeframe on it. One must be aware that we need patience to see promises revealed. Sure, it would be easier if Madam told us when She will summon you to kneel, whe

Ten thousand hours. That's how long author Malcolm Gladwell suggests it takes to become skillful at any pursuit. Even for the greatest subs and slaves of all time, their innate submissive nature wasn't enough to achieve the level of obedience that they would eventually hope to attain. They needed to immerse themselves in their desire to be of use every single day. 'Good that you're here, My little one. I like the idea of you being 'the bottom person on the rung' and lyin

You've not been treated properly by anyone and I'm here to fix that. Why BDSM is a Sacred Healing Art. It's nothing to do with spanking, the pretty vibrators or seeing hot women in latex. Frankly, with the rise of the internet, it's possible to meet a different person every night of the week. This is not what this is about - this is something deeper and more profound. This is about Madam and slave and transcends the quick fix of vanilla relationships. I know how submissive yo